Entries Tagged as 'Personal'

Make a Difference

No matter what career path you choose, you can make a difference in someone’s life. You never know what words you will say or what actions you will do. Those words and actions may be just what someone needs.

Check out this post Making a Difference from a professor/author.

An example of making a difference in someone’s life happened to David and me during our first year of marriage in our first church where David was pastor.

David was the pastor of a very small rural church in Louisiana during our first year of marriage. I was the volunteer children’s minister with a very small group of children. I led the children in a Bible study, did a children’s sermon, and started a children’s choir. All with a variety of ages of children. We were only at this church for about a year when God moved us on to other things. We did not keep in touch with anyone from that church after we moved.

Then 13 years later David received an email from a young girl who was involved in the children’s ministry group. She had searched for our names on the Internet, found David’s contact information, and contacted him. She said she never forgot us and the impact we had on her life. She reminded us that I shared the plan of salvation with her at the age of 10 and David baptized her. She did not attend church with her family at the time. Her mom would drop her off at church time and come back to pick her up.

She is now married to a pastor, has a nursing degree and works as a nurse, and recently had their first baby. Her mom is now actively involved in our former church and has gotten many of her friends involved as well.

What a blessing it was to know that we did make a difference. Keep on keeping on — keep on making a difference. You may not know what kind of difference for many years later.

Ministry to all God’s creatures

During the Delaware blizzard of February 2010, even though we couldn’t get out of our driveway very easily and we battled the blowing snow and the entire state was closed for the day, we continued to provide a safe corner for one of God’s little birds. He found his way to our front porch, in the corner right outside our front door, shielded from the blowing wind and snow.

Tiny bird seeking shelter from the Feb 2010 Delaware blizzard

Cloudy days are ok

The grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. Some days we just wish would end and be over. Some days we can’t see any good coming out of them. One thing leads to another and worse gives in to worse. But, never fear! Cloudy days are ok. We must ‘face the clouds to see the silver lining.’ That’s What Faith Can Do.

What Faith Can Do

Merry Christmas 2009

Sung to the tune of Away in a Manger:

Away in a year ’09 has gone / In marches a new year ready or not…

Brenna started 2009 with continued preparations and plans for her mom and dad’s 40th wedding anniversary reception. Their official anniversary was April 5, but we celebrated on March 29 at their church in Winter Haven, Florida. Many friends and family were in attendance and had a great time remembering their times together over the past 40 years.

For Brenna’s birthday celebration in February, David took her to a Washington Wizards basketball game in Washington, D.C. That was an amazing experience to see a professional basketball team play live.

The next week was Valentine’s Day, so Brenna and David had dinner at Morton’s Steakhouse in Philadelphia. That was a treat to remember.

The week after Valentine’s Day was Mardi Gras and being the New Orleans lovers that they are, Brenna and David made their annual King Cake order from the Big Easy and discovered a New Orleans restaurant in Wilmington, Delaware. Crawfish and Po’ boys and Bananas Foster, O my!

David spent much of the early months of the year writing his dissertation at Panera Bread at University of Delaware. He was able to defend it in mid-March, allowing him to graduate with 9 members of his cohort.

On April 27, they celebrated 13 years of marriage the weekend before flying to Portland, Oregon, for David’s doctoral graduation. He graduated in May with a Doctorate in Ministry, Leadership in the Emerging Culture from George Fox Seminary. His dissertation was entitled “Understanding Behavioral Change through the Integration of Emerging Sciences and Theology.” He cherishes those years of study and mentoring under our new friend Len Sweet. Len teaches at Drew University in New Jersey as well as George Fox Seminary in Oregon. Living in Delaware has allowed Brenna and David to share a meal and visit with Len while in New Jersey. What an encouraging friend.

While in Portland, we went to Timberline Lodge, 7,000 feet on the side of Mt. Hood, and rode the train through the Mt. Hood valley. We drove through the Columbia River gorge and saw many breath-taking waterfalls, including Multonomah Falls.

David turned 40 years old in June and Brenna surprised him with a graduation/birthday party at their home. He was surprised until the day of the party when he wanted to go somewhere and Brenna had to tell him no because 35 people were coming over later.

The next week after David’s birthday party, they went to a Braves-Orioles baseball game in Baltimore. The Braves lost but it was a fun experience and they consoled themselves with a piece of cheesecake from the Cheesecake Factory. It works every time.

For the July 4th weekend, Brenna and David rode their bikes on the trail and went kayaking at a Delaware state park. That was fun, but they would rather go canoeing than kayaking.

August through the remainder of the year has been a time of prayer for healing for Brenna’s mom. In August she had surgery to remove the pins in her hip from a fall 10 years ago. That wasn’t healing properly and giving a lot of pain and discomfort so she returned to the hospital in September to discover her hip was broken again. Meanwhile, her twin brother passed away suddenly. Brenna’s mom was in no condition to travel from Florida to Virginia at that time, but Brenna made the short 4-hour trip from Delaware to be with her aunt and other family members. She read a tribute from the twin sister at the memorial service on her mom’s behalf.

Brenna’s mom continued to have a lot of pain and the doctor discovered through x-rays that her hip had now dislocated. She went for the third surgery and continued physical therapy and occupational therapy at a center near their house. The center staff was impressed with how well she was recovering and getting back to a normal routine. She was finally able to return home in early December. Praise God!

Through social media tools, such as Facebook and Twitter, Brenna calculated that people from 12 states responded to her posts and tweets on her mom’s recovery journey. Thank you so much for the prayers and thoughts. We love you all.

A person is a professional when she gets paid for a work, right?! Given that definition, Brenna is now a professional writer. In September, she had 2 articles published in Group Publishing’s Children’s Ministry Magazine, and she wrote the VBS article for the Baptist Convention of Maryland/Delaware’s State Missions Offering. She has been asked to write a chapter on multi-age classrooms for a children’s ministry book coming March 2010. She has an illustrated children’s book on the transition from preschool to children’s ministry also coming in early 2010.

David continues to write as well. He authored an e-book entitled Reframing Success: Missional Metrics for Missional Ministry. He is nearing completion of his book based on his doctoral research Wholly Rewired: Science, the Gospel, and the Journey Towards Wholeness. He has started a book on missional theology called The Miror: the Reflection of God to the World. This book looks at the Trinity as the basis for missional theology.

In October David flew to Huntsville, Alabama, to visit his parents and see some other family and friends. He enjoyed visiting with high school friends, Brad and Russ. He was able to see his 6th grade teacher and another high school friend he has not seen since 10th grade.

In November, David had an eye doctor appointment that resulted in bi-focals. Now he’s really feeling 40 years old.

In early December, Brenna and David divided the house for the second year in a row as the undefeated Alabama Crimson Tide took on the undefeated Florida Gators. David is looking forward to watching the National Championship game in January while Brenna will watch the Gators make Kool-aid in the Sugar Bowl on New Year’s Day.

Brenna will drive back to Florida with her parents after Christmas, visit with friends, and go to an FSC basketball game then fly home New Year’s Day. David will drive back to Delaware after Christmas to get the dog from the vet and spend a few days reading and writing.

For Christmas 2008 we met the parents in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. We loved it so much that we are going again this Christmas.

We are looking forward to time off from work, visiting friends and family, and celebrating the season of Jesus’ birth.

Merry Christmas! from Brenna and David Phillips

Going forward

Philippians 3:13 The Message:

“I’m not saying that I have this all together, that I have it made. But I am well on my way, reaching out for Christ, who has so wondrously reached out for me. … By no means do I count myself an expert in all of this, but I’ve got my eye on the goal, where God is beckoning us onward–to Jesus. I’m off and running, and I’m not turning back.”

This is my life verse, the verse I strive to follow and to hold. I’m not perfect and get off the path towards THE goal, but I’m not all I’m going to be YET. “I know that I have not yet reached that goal, but there is one thing I always do. Forget the past and strain toward what is ahead” (New Century Version).

Rivalry week

This blog takes a break from it’s regularly scheduled programming of children’s-family ministry to bring you this video on the rivalry between the Florida Gators and the FSU Seminoles.

Go Gators!

Danny W @ Ben Hill Griffin Stadium

Now back to your regularly scheduled programming.

Is the sky falling?

I am loving the songs by 33 Miles more and more. The lyrics from “Jesus Calling” song means a lot to me these days as I try to hear God’s voice and follow His path. Sometimes things feel like pouring rain and thunder and lightning and it feels like the sky is falling all around me, but Jesus is calling; He’s right there with me.

Here’s the chorus:

When you see the rushing wind, feel the pouring rain
Hear the thunder now as the clouds roll in
You’re blinded by the lighting
Do you also hear that still, small voice saying it’s okay
You’re not alone, you may be scared to death
But I won’t let you go
You may think the sky above is falling
But can you hear Jesus calling

33 Miles \”Jesus is Calling\”

Nature wins

End of summer-beginning of fall butterfly in Delaware

End of summer-beginning of fall butterfly in Delaware

This afternoon I sat on the back patio reading, enjoying the end of summer-beginning of fall light breeze and sunshine. I love things in nature! The beauty of God’s creation! Here is a picture of a big butterfly enjoying his own butterfly bushes.

In the beginning…

I’m a Children’s-Family Minister. I love children’s-family ministry. I’ve worked in children-preschool ministry for many years, going on 16 years now. I’ve held many positions:  paid positions, volunteer positions, children’s ministry only positions, children-preschool ministry positions, church staff positions, school teaching positions, year-round positions, summer positions, positions in large churches, positions in small churches, positions in churches with rented facilities, positions in house churches.

I currently work as a volunteer Children’s-Family Minister at our church. Our church has one part-time paid staff member, the senior pastor. In addition to my children’s ministry responsibilities, I teach early childhood students at an early childhood learning center. That position is both fun and difficult at the same time. Teaching is fun and it is exciting to plan fun ways to teach the developmental basics to early childhood students. There are those daily challenges of early childhood behavior issues as well though. But this position allows me to be out in the field working with children and families with whom the church should be ministering.

Some people say, “oh, if those non-church positions weren’t paid children’s ministry positions, then they weren’t real positions.” But I say, “oh, but they are. I learned more about ministry in my non-church staff positions than I did directly on a church staff.” It is my belief that ministry leaders learn more about how to do ministry by working in the “real world” along side “real people.” Ministers learn how to be real people. They learn how to interact with others. They learn normal language. They learn normal actions. Every minister should be out in the world investing in the lives of others.

Today we journeyed to New Jersey to have lunch with our friend Len Sweet. What a joy it is to visit with him and enjoy a new adventure each time we meet! He is such a down-to-earth guy with encouraging words to share. Thanks a bunch, Len!

DVBC_NJ

Delaware Valley Baptist Church

On our way back to Delaware, we decided to re-program the GPS to lead us to my old house. I was born in Willingboro, New Jersey, but moved away when I was 5 years old. Much of my time there is fuzzy in my mind and I’m going on memories from family pictures and stories but those were good years. Mom and Dad were recently married when they moved to New Jersey to help with a new church plant. My preschool years started in Delaware Valley Baptist (Willingboro) and Southside Baptist (Mt. Holly). Both of these churches have changed with many different leaders, different emphases, and different paths over many years, but these were special times in the beginning of my family life as mom and dad were my first preschool teachers, later leading me to follow God’s call to lead others in the ministry of children-preschool-families. I am blessed to have had those early teachings and treasure those years very much. May God continue to teach me everyday how to minister to those with whom he places in my path.

Thoughts from the Twin Sister

I am posting these thoughts in memory of my dear uncle Norris Culbertson, my mom’s twin brother, who passed away on September 3, 2009, in Virginia Beach, Virginia. His memorial services were held Saturday, September 5. Because of recent surgery and recovery, Mom was unable to travel from central Florida, so I read her thoughts at the memorial service for her.

Thoughts from the Twin Sister

Norris and I started our lives together side by side. We always had fun together riding bikes, skating, playing games, walking through mud puddles after a rain, and going to many friends’ birthday parties.

As twins, we always wanted to be in the same room in school. Norris always looked after me when we were growing up; he even covered my tracks when I got into something. If I needed anything, I always knew I could call on him.

Norris thought life would be more exciting to quit school and not have to take any more tests or have any more homework assignments. So he joined the Navy.

After his time in the service, he came home and then moved to Emporia, Virginia, where he worked for Roses Department Store. While in Emporia, he met Joan. They married and have been inseparable for over 55 yeas.

Norris has always been devoted to and loved everyone in his family. His one son, three grandchildren, and one great-grandson have captivated his attention.

He loved the Lord, his church, his pastor, and his friends at his church. He always enjoyed reading and studying the Bible, and now is enjoying even greater fellowship with God in the arms of Jesus.

His family of brothers and sisters has also been a joy for him. He always looked forward to reunions, picnics, or any place to be with his family and share many jokes — which he was a master of telling.

Heaven is a brighter place now with him there, but he surely will not be forgotten here on Earth. One day others of the family who linger here on Earth will have the opportunity to rejoice with Norris in Heaven.

In loving memory, submitted by Doris Culbertson Boring September 3, 2009