I was recently asked the following question regarding children/youth:
What do you do when the parenting standards you have are different than the Christians you are around?
I gave the following simple quick answer at the time because it was on a Facebook comment:
You should stick with the parenting standards for which God chooses for you and your family and how He presents them to you to meet your family needs. Each family is unique just like each child is unique. One style works with one child but may need to be tweaked to work with a different child. The broad picture is the same with different details. That was the short Facebook post answer.
Here is a longer, more detailed answer:
That question can be applied to life in general, not only to parenting standards but to Christian standards. When Christ-followers choose Jesus and choose to follow His ways, it can be difficult to make right choices when other Christians we are around appear to make choices for which we might not think are the best ones.
We must follow God’s directions (The Bible) for our personal lives and standards because He knows our paths. He knows what we can handle. If we are hanging around a group of people who claim to be Christians but they are doing or saying things that we don’t think are Christian acts or words, then we must choose to withdraw or join in, depending on God’s choice for us.
We must take into consideration the situation and the culture where we are. A group of Christians in a non-faith-based workplace in a northern region may do things differently from those in a southern region. Cultures are completely different in different parts of the country. We must use the Bible as our ultimate book of standards and guide. Follow the standards of Jesus. He was the #1 Christian and hung out with people with standards that others didn’t necessarily approve. That was His way and He was reaching and teaching others by entering into their worlds. Sometimes we must meet others closer to their worlds than we want to be in order to make a Christian impact. That doesn’t mean we forget our Christian ways and act worldly; it just means be real.
May we show Jesus to others by being real.